Part of having ADHD as an adult, in my experience, are the feelings of negativity. I feel as though I let people down a lot, as though I’m always on the edge of being kicked out or ruining something (whether it be personal, professional, etc), that anything good I do or achieve is just some combo of unexplainable luck, and maybe worst of all, feeling like anything related to ADHD is, at its root, just a lame excuse for not being very good at this whole human adult thing.
So, I guess I’m saying that living as a happy adult with ADHD requires a lot of FAITH, of whatever kinds. Faith that I haven’t been wasting my time for the last X number of decades, faith that I really can finish something, someday (and I don’t just mean finish living! Ha!), and faith that It is okay not to finish absolutely everything I start, that I can begin an idea and inspire other people down really cool paths of their own!
Hopefully, that faith will get me through a really hard day today (which I brought upon myself, I know).
You know what one of my favorite things in the whole, wide world is? Lighthearted religious figures. Yep, a priest, mullah, rabbi, guru, etc, w/ a sense of humor is where it’s at. They somehow maintain the respect for humanity and the divine, while painting both an awesome shade of neon pink.
Continuing on my (okay, just about everybody’s) theme of New Years Resolutions, I read an old article by Rev. James Martin, S.J. It wasn’t meant to be hilarious, exactly, but the dude definitely put the myrrh in myrrhth (Christmas pun, sorry!). The article is titled, “12 Really Stupid Things I Never Want To Do Again.” Some of the highlights:
- St. Francis de Sales, a lighthearted 17th-century saint, once said: “Be who you are and be that perfectly well.”
- “Everyone gets sick, for Pete’s sake. In the words of the great prophets, suck it up.”
- If you ever get discouraged about your rate of change, just think about trees — yes, trees. In the summer they’re green. In the fall they’re red. And no one sees them change.
For me, the last line, especially, holds significance at the New Year. Okay, admittedly, the trees now (at least in the midwest) have NO leaves, and I DID see a lot of them flying off the branches. Still, it’s meaningful to think about the trees’ changes and my own New Years resolutions. I don’t need to announce my impending change (though it might help to tell a few choice friends). I don’t need to worry–and conversely, I need to keep myself from anticipating too highly–that people will see me or judge me (or compliment me) in the process of change. I just have to change, naturally.